‘Tayo ay nasa Fine Dining Restaurant’ – those were the words that opened an online discussion on proper decorum in upscale dining establishments following the viral video from Filipino Actress and Rapper, Toni Fowler or known as Mommy Oni.

Social media has once again sparked an intriguing discussion, this time about fine dining etiquette, thanks to a viral video by Toni Fowler. Known for her bold personality and unfiltered content, Fowler found herself in the middle of a conversation about how to behave in high-end restaurants. In her now-famous clip, she recounts an incident where a companion dropped a piece of bread and loudly reacted with expletives, causing discomfort in the refined setting.

Her reaction to the situation, emphasizing the importance of “pakikisama” or social adaptability, resonated with many. She pointed out that adjusting one’s behavior to the setting isn’t about pretension but about respect for the people around you. This incident opened up a wider discussion on whether traditional fine dining rules still hold up today or if a more modern approach is shaping restaurant culture.

The Shift in Fine Dining Norms

For decades, fine dining was synonymous with strict dress codes, hushed conversations, and an almost ceremonial approach to meals. Every aspect, from the precise arrangement of cutlery to the carefully curated ambiance, was designed to reinforce exclusivity and decorum. However, the global food scene has been evolving.

Modern fine dining is now characterized by a balance between sophistication and comfort. Many high-end restaurants are moving away from rigid traditions, allowing guests to engage with food more freely. Some even encourage guests to eat with their hands when the dish calls for it, reinforcing a more immersive experience. But does this mean diners are free to behave however they please? Not quite.

Influencers’ Recreations

Fowler’s video sparked not only discussions but also a wave of recreations by influencers and celebrities, each adding their own comedic take on the matter. Notable social media personalities such as Macoy Dubs, Katik, MAMA, and P-Pop boy group ALAMAT among others created their own renditions of the viral clip, playing with different dialects that highlight both the humorous and relatable aspects of fine dining etiquette.

Respect Over Rigidity

While restaurants may no longer impose strict formalities, an underlying expectation remains: be considerate. Fine dining may have become more relaxed, but it’s still about enjoying an experience—both for yourself and for others in the room. Loud disruptions, inappropriate language, or inattentiveness to social cues can take away from the atmosphere that many diners seek when opting for a special meal.

Having been in both casual and upscale dining spaces, I’ve seen firsthand how behavior impacts the overall experience. Whether someone is celebrating a personal milestone, on a first date, or simply treating themselves to an elegant meal, the surrounding environment plays a significant role in making the moment special. The goal of any restaurant, fine dining or otherwise, is to create a pleasant setting for all.

Timeless Manners in a Changing Era

While the formalities of fine dining have evolved, the core principle remains unchanged: good manners never go out of style. The way food is served may have adapted to modern sensibilities, but social awareness and respect for fellow diners should always be a given. Even in high-end establishments that embrace a more relaxed approach, a certain level of decorum is expected.

Fowler’s video may not have been intended to spark a broader conversation on etiquette, but it certainly served as a reminder of an essential social skill—knowing how to adjust to different settings. The way we engage with food and dining spaces may change over time, but the value of being mindful of those around us will always remain relevant.

Ultimately, fine dining is about more than just exquisite meals—it’s about the entire experience. As restaurant culture in the Philippines continues to evolve, striking a balance between enjoyment and etiquette ensures that every guest, regardless of background, can fully appreciate the moment.

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